Gay Andy

April 14, 2010

I should feel sad, and so why don’t i?

Filed under: Uncategorized — gayandy @ 3:22 am

It’s now 7:30 and I heard my dad yelling “Andy your boyfriends here” – aaaaugh I hate it when my dad says that.

I ran downstairs to see which one of my friends my dad is calling my boyfriend. I opened the front door and there he was . . . my bff, Rike! I hesitated for a second with what to do ideas racing through my brain. I opened the door wider and invited Rike in. He was cold. He was wearing a t-shirt and his skin felt like ice. There’s a cold wind blowing from off the lake tonight and Rike lives way on the otherside of the lake and I didn’t have the heart to make him stay outside in the cold wind.

We went up to my room and I sat down on my bed. Rike sat down right next to me. I could tell from the look in his eyes he was grateful that I opened the door to my heart to him once again. He wanted to talk. But I said I need to talk to him first. I told him the reason why I’m trying to get tough with him is because of the love I feel for him. I explained to him that knowing he’s doing drugs and sniffing glue with Jamie hurts me and it hurts his friends too. I told him that i know he’s been through a lot in his life. I know you’ve seen a lot of people doing drugs and you feel hurt that your dad is dead and your mom is sleeping with different men. And you try to kill the pain by drowning yourself in drugs. But doing drugs doesn’t change a thing. Your dad is still dead, and your mom still has her own problems. And you using drugs isn’t going to make your life any better.

I then stopped preaching at him and I just sat quietly next to him and didn’t say anything more.

A few minutes later he reached into his pocket and he pulled out a letter from Lance. The letter said that him and Lance are through, and Lance is breaking off his relationship with Rike. Just as I was reading the letter my cell phone rang. It was Lance. I handed the phone to Rike. He went into the bathroom where he could talk privately. He then came out and asked me how many minutes I have left on my cell phone? I told him not very many. I said the best thing he should do now is text Lance and ask him to get on MSN.

Rike has been chatting on MSN with Lance for over an hour!

Rike chatting with Lance

Finally my dad came into my room and said Rike needs to go home now, it’s late. I looked at the clock and *wow* my dad was right, it was late! It’s now 11:20pm and the time flew by! It seemed like Rike just got here and now he has to go home.

I asked my dad if he could give Rike a ride to his house. I said it’s cold outside and it’s a long walk home in the dark on a cold and windy night. My dad looked at me with a “you’ve got to be kidding me” look on his face. But then he reached into his pants pocket and pulled out the car keys. He tossed them to me and said “you take him home.”

I have my learners permit but technically an adult is supposed to be in the car with me while I’m driving. But it was really late and nobody is on the road at that time of night and so I got to drive Rike to his house, with just him and me in the car under the stars and moonlight on a cold and windy night.



  1. It didn't take much for Rike to come back on track…or so it seems! Looks like the break up finally gave him a heads up on the situation! Hope he stays out of trouble for good this time!N yes, ur doing a great job….tht advice was spot-on!!! Extremely smart move!

    Comment by Phunk Factor — April 14, 2010 @ 6:56 am | Reply

  2. AndyHiI read your blog everday and like it a lot. I don't think I have ever commented before.I just wanted to say when I was 15 I was in a way a lot like your friend and I was lucky enough to have a friend like you are to him. I didn't heed his words or warnings and it took a few years for me to straighten out but Andy I was so glad he stayed and walked beside me, it didn't always feel like that to him I guess but I was always glad he was there, beside me. Now we are still good friends and there are occassions when my walking his path helps him too. I just wanted to say I guess sometimes people don't show their appreciation and love for the care shown to them but it does not mean that they do not value it.I don't know if that helps or what but just know by walking beside him, waiting to catch him when he falls is all you can do.Total Love and Respect for you AndyNick

    Comment by Put The Lotion In The Basket — April 14, 2010 @ 10:39 am | Reply

  3. I do think that you did the right thing in this situation I know I would have done the same

    Comment by Ethan — April 14, 2010 @ 12:01 pm | Reply

  4. Oh man… here we go again… Well, Andy. I never doubted your feelings for Rike; the problem has always been the way he 'returns' your love… I hope you're OK and stay safe. There's not too much more to say… luv, tman<3

    Comment by tman — April 14, 2010 @ 12:30 pm | Reply

  5. Hi Andy, I understand, Glad you had your talk with Rike, I will wait to hear more info? chao Dean

    Comment by wetcool1 — April 14, 2010 @ 1:05 pm | Reply

  6. Wow oh wow! Maybe Rike is starting to realise how valuable his real friends are. Lance is giving him the tough love treatment too. And what a wonderful talk you had with him; no one could say it any better. Stick with your friends through the tough times and sometimes persistence pays off in turning someone around. Be nice to Lance, Mark, and Mario; you need all the gay friends you can get and remember, no one is perfect. -I think your dad is acknowledging your homosexuality in his own way. 'Your boyfriend is here!' is actually rather humourous. He lets them stay in your bedroom for hours. And he trusts you with his car to get Rike home. I think your dad is proud of you. (he should be with the report cards you are getting!) Hope you get your driver's license soon, remember it may take a few trys (they always fail the young guys the first try); be super careful when you get it so you can keep it. bfn – Wayne 🙂

    Comment by wayner — April 14, 2010 @ 2:36 pm | Reply

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